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13 Working Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up from Low Phase of Life

Low phase in life is obvious, life can’t be problem free. As soon as we accept it, we can move forward, if don’t, we’ll remain in same loop of “why problems come to me all the time?” In order to pick yourself back up, you need to have an uplifting thought process and a few beliefs.

This blog post is about those simple practices that will help you to stand on your feets by yourself during low phase of life.

Below I’ve shared 13 tips to get up and how does low phase look like?

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

– Vivian Greene

How does low phase look/feel like?

If you are in your 20s you might experience lack of passion, no clarity, low self-esteem & self-confidence, lack of income and maybe no income streams, or unsatisfying relationships.

These were common low phases, which you could experience in any phase of life, not necessarily 20s.

Low phase brings extreme negativity in life, which is also a reason we want to avoid it as much as we can. What negativity?

  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Discouraging self-talk
  • Anger on oneself
  • Frustration, etc.

Related read: Early life crisis 101

Be Grateful

Practicing gratitude is a powerful way to shift your focus from negativity to positivity. Take a few moments each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, whether it’s a supportive friend, a beautiful sunset, or a warm cup of coffee. Cultivating gratitude helps reframe your mindset and appreciate the blessings in your life, however small they may seem.

Take It One Step At A Time

Overwhelming situations can make you feel stuck or paralyzed. Break down your challenges into smaller, manageable tasks. Focus on taking one step at a time, celebrating each small achievement along the way. By tackling things gradually, you build momentum and regain a sense of progress, empowering you to navigate through difficult times.

  • Find issue.
  • Craft solution.
  • Break solution process in multi steps.
  • Follow first step, complete it & then move to next.

Allow Yourself To Feel

It’s essential to acknowledge and honor your emotions during a low phase. Give yourself permission to feel sadness, anger, or frustration. Suppressing emotions can prolong the healing process. Allow yourself to experience these emotions fully, but also remember to seek healthy coping mechanisms, such as talking to a trusted friend, journaling, or engaging in activities that bring you joy.

Basically, don’t pretend to “be positive”, when you truly try to feel, you’ll find reasons for low phase, and with reasons, you’re more likely to come out with perfect solutions.

Get Out Of The House

Sometimes, a change of environment can work wonders for your emotional well-being. Step out of the house, go for a walk, or engage in activities that you enjoy.

It can also be meant to get out of comfort zone, likely, you could be in low phase because of comfort. You have to step out, do some thing, start something.

Spend Some Time With The People That You Love

Staying around people who care about and support you will more likely help you recover if you are stressed or depressed. Reach out to family or close friends and spend quality time with them. Share your thoughts and feelings, or simply enjoy their company.

Have hesitation? Come on, take risk of saving yourself at least..

Also, sometimes in such phase all we need is someone we can talk to.

Talk about what you feel

It’s actually second step of “allow what you feel”.

Expressing your emotions verbally can be cathartic and help release pent-up feelings. Find someone you trust—a friend, family member, or therapist—and have an open and honest conversation about what you’re going through.

Articulating your thoughts and emotions allows you to gain clarity, gain perspective, and receive valuable insights or support.

There’s no disadvantage, you can ask for other’s opinions, act what you think will be good.


I think breathing properly works in every situation, well it’s a form of yoga and it is effective. Deep, intentional breathing will bring of to this point “okay, so what now, what’s solution, how to get out of this situation”, the actual things you should be thinking about.

  • Find a quiet space.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Take slow, deep breaths.
  • Inhale through your nose.
  • Exhale through your mouth.
  • Just sit in peace, and talk to yourself.

Answer these questions one by one, without any excuses.

Write It Down

What is the problem? What are you feeling? Are you getting repeated thoughts? Is something happened so that you are thinking all this?

Answer, or just write whatever comes to your mind. Let the words flow freely without judgment or censorship.

Writing can help you gain clarity, process emotions, and discover valuable insights about yourself and your situation. It also serves as a record of your journey, showing how far you’ve come when you look back.

Do Something That You Enjoy

  • Discover activities that ignite your passion and bring you joy.
    Examples: painting, cooking, dancing, hiking.
  • Make time for these hobbies or creative outlets.
  • Schedule dedicated time in your calendar.

If not bring you solution, engaging in activities you enjoy boosts your mood and brings a sense of accomplishment. With this sense of achievement, you’ll have energy to make choices. Such as;

  • When you paint, you unleash your creativity and express yourself.
  • Cooking allows you to explore flavors and create delicious meals.
  • Dancing lets you move freely and release stress.
  • Hiking connects you with nature and rejuvenates your spirit.

These activities remind you of the things that bring happiness and fulfillment to your life.

Learn To Forgive Yourself

We all make mistakes and experience setbacks. Instead of dwelling on past failures or beating yourself up, practice self-compassion. Recognize that you are human, capable of growth and change.

You might be in lowest phase because you didn’t forgive yourself in past.

To come out of this infinite loop, reflect on the lessons learned from your mistakes and use them as stepping stones for personal development. Embrace forgiveness as a powerful tool for releasing self-blame and guilt, allowing yourself to heal and move forward with a renewed sense of self-acceptance.

Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help

When you’re going through tough times, remember that you don’t have to face it alone. Reach out and ask for support—it’s a brave and courageous thing to do. Here’s how you can approach asking for help:

  1. Identify your support system: Think about the people in your life who care about you and whom you trust.
  2. Express your needs: Clearly communicate what you’re going through and the specific help you’re seeking.
  3. Seek professional assistance: Consider reaching out to therapists, counselors, or support groups who specialize in dealing with similar challenges.
  4. Take advantage of helplines: Utilize helplines or hotlines that are available to provide immediate support and guidance.

Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength and resilience. It allows others to be there for you and offers you the opportunity to receive the assistance you need to navigate the low phase of life successfully.

Keep Yourself Energized

To regain your energy during a low phase, focus on activities that uplift your mind and body. Exercise regularly for an endorphin boost and improved mood.

Fuel yourself with nutritious foods that provide lasting energy.

Take breaks to rest and recharge. Try relaxation techniques like deep breathing and meditation to reduce stress. By prioritizing self-care and adopting healthy habits, you’ll enhance your resilience and stay energized when facing challenges.

Play some lively music

Music is love in bad times. Create a playlist of lively and inspiring songs, music that resonate with you. Let the music work its magic as you dance, sing, or simply immerse yourself in its rhythms.

Allow the melodies to transport you to a more positive and energized state of mind. Music has the remarkable ability to shift our mindset, evoke emotions, and remind us of the beauty and potential in life.

Embrace the power of music as your companion on the journey of picking yourself back up from a low phase.

Quotes to pick yourself back up

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

– J.K. Rowling

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.”

Robert H. Schuller

“The darkest nights produce the brightest stars.”

– John Green

Final thoughts

Everyone faces low phase, if you don’t hit back, you’ll go with flow and end up somewhere unexpected. You will loose track, you might brainwash yourself, and what not.

Basically, low phase will teach you a lot, but you must be willing to learn and to learn, you should be in calm state. So cool down, take breath, low phase will go away.

Good bye👋

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